Motherhood Will Crack You Open

 🤱Motherhood Will Crack You Open 🥥

Happy belated Mother’s Day to my beautiful mamas.  

And an extra squeeze to the moms who spent the day crying in the bathroom, doom-scrolling in bed, feeling completely unsupported, grieving silently, or wondering why everyone else seems to be handling motherhood better than they are.  

Spoiler alert: they’re probably not.  

Motherhood is wild.  

Not the curated Instagram version with matching pajamas and smiling children holding homemade pancakes. I mean the real version. The version where you haven’t peed alone in years, your nervous system is fried, and someone is always touching you, needing you, calling for you, or emotionally unraveling within a 3-foot radius.  

Motherhood doesn’t just change you—it exposes you.  

It drags your wounds, your triggers, your coping mechanisms, your control issues, your exhaustion, and your unmet needs directly into the light like, “Hey, babe… we should probably deal with this.”  

Some days we heal.  

Some days, we dissociate and eat snacks in the pantry, hiding from our children.  

Growth is not linear.  

And listen… this life can swallow women whole if they aren’t careful.  

Not because we don’t love our kids, but because somewhere along the way we were taught that being a “good mother” meant abandoning ourselves completely.  

Absolutely not.  

Take the nap.  

Ask for help.  

Say no without writing a 5-page apology tour afterward.  

Buy the coffee.  

Go to therapy.  

Breathe!!

Set boundaries even if it disappoints people.  

Stop treating your needs like they are optional side quests.  

Because your children are watching.  

They are learning how to love themselves by watching how you love yourself. They are learning burnout, boundaries, nervous system regulation, self-worth, and resilience from you in real time.  

And yes… despite all the chaos and identity crises and absolute feral exhaustion… motherhood is also sacred. It is hilarious and tender and soul-expanding. We get the honor of loving these tiny humans through all their versions of themselves while trying to survive our own.  

Motherhood is brutal.  

Motherhood is beautiful.  

Sometimes within the same five-minute span.  

Both can be true.

😮‍💨A Breath for the Overwhelmed Mama😌

Before you jump back into the chaos, take one moment for yourself.  

Unclench your jaw. Drop your shoulders. 

Let your nervous system know it’s safe to soften for a second.  

🌬️ Inhale slowly through your nose for a count of 4  

✨ Hold gently for 2  

🌙 Exhale slowly through your mouth for 8  

Again.  

Breathe in calm.  

Hold compassion.  

Exhale the pressure to hold it all together perfectly.  

Repeat 4–5 times anytime the world feels too loud, too heavy, or too much.  

You deserve to breathe too.